Like all other moms, I have always been tormented with mommy guilt. Feeling of not being “good enough” mom. Slowly I realised it’s nothing to do with gender or being a parent but a conditioning problem. I noticed others who doesn’t have this attitude, at least in parenting or self confidence. There is an “I don’t care” attitude in general which doesn’t mean they don’t give **** about the person but means they don’t give **** to the outcome of what they do. They will take decisions and if they end up being wrong they are gonna brush off and start again or different but without any wallowing guilt or berating themselves or without any worries of how the outcome can affect others. I so want to have that.
The instances where I saw this happening is in parenting usually. From young age children are given mobile phones to play(been there, done that) for unlimited times. The patience is running out indeed and it will, but have you stopped for a second and figured out what else could be done. How to improve the quality of life of yours and your child’s? Maybe take deep breaths and “regulate” emotions. Work out the boundaries with other family members for which you need to first work on yourself. I learnt this the hard way, of course, but that shouldn’t stop me from writing it all down to make it easy for you, right? (Or rather preach your ears out!)
I have felt jealous of older men and women who gets up at 4-5am, travel a lot, keep themselves busy with multiple jobs or side businesses, doing exercising, playing sports and what not(going on dates!??!). All I wanted to ask them is what do they do with their kids? Where are they? Watching tv at home? Are they burning your house? Or killing (chilling?)with their “besties” at their house?
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