On being at home

While searching for inspirations on what to blog on, I usually try to read as many blogs as I can. Its like a conversation. Some say their opinion, and we too come up with ours.

So I read most of the Project 52 blog posts for the Week 6 from the Facebook, and found a blog by Uma. She expressed almost the same feelings on being at home which I wanted to convey and that too in a beautiful free flowing language. Since I am just trying to find my rhythm back, I guess I would just quote the lines which spoke like “its me who is talking there”!

The attitude towards women in general also needs a paradigm shift. Home and children are as much a man’s as a woman’s responsibility. A woman should not be expected to shoulder these completely in addition to being a WM or for that matter just because she is a SAHM and ‘is home all day’, she should not be expected to be a home-goddess and carry out all the responsibilities. She too is entitled to her personal space and time.

I do miss the me time, though I am clueless how to utilize it properly.

However, consider this scenario: A studies hard to get into engineering, studies and gets placed in a prestigious company. She quits realizing it is not her cup of tea and decides to pursue arts instead. Further, she does not have a regular job but freelances as a hobby. Will anyone say they are proud of her? Will anyone want to trade places? Someone who is not successful in the conventional manner is not a bright person. Someone who probably wants and works towards having a well-kept house, a happy-married life, be a SAHM by choice is a non-ambitious person-a loser who probably lacks the skills to have a career. Why does a job/career HAVE to be a choice for modern day women? Why can’t she just have a choice to do what she wants and still be respected for that?

Here A had decided already to pursue art. What if we never come to know what is our cup of tea? Found some talks in TEDx related to this, and realized this is exactly similar to iReboot I found in Bangalore. The first step in these programs is to identify our strengths and ask similar questions and get the answers.

But isn’t the answers always tougher than the questions? Just like the moment, when someone asks “why did you quit” or “how does your day go” or “are you planning to join work again”. How do you find an answer convincing others, or sometimes, even myself?

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