The cliched happily ever after. Less fights and more smiles.
All these are part of the screenplay when we watch the movie of dreams every night. And the dreams are formed when we have some goals in life. You say you don’t have any goals? Yes, you do. You are just unaware of it.
Some people just hang onto the happily ever after and think that working hard and earning money, and living prosperously is the only goal to every human being. Though its not. Everyday, there would be an underlying goal towards which we work every minute. It could be either making lunch or dinner, or completing that piece of code assigned for the day, removing that defect in the software, doing some household chores, being more healthy, or raising your kids, or working towards better personal relations. Relaxation and lazing around are just the means of reviving ourselves before we are back in the race. The race within yourself to achieve the goals in your destination.
Few years ago, when I resigned from job, people offered me lot of suggestions, not to leave the job, not to waste the education provided by the parents and all that. But these days, I could see more and more people who resign their jobs just to look after their child. SAHM and WAHM terms have been more popular, though it has not achieved much respect in society. I too did just the same, but my child was the marriage. It needed nurturing too like any other relationship.
Of all the side effects, the first is the losing of identity. Earlier, there was an image of a home maker in the society, who does all the household chores, and looks after the children. They were known popularly as someone’s wives. And the women were happy playing that role. But with more education, we never feel like restricting ourselves to just the basic necessities.We needed more respect just like how they consider doctors, businessmen, and software engineers. We need our me-time and pastime, hanging out with friends, or going to the parlour and we do expect others to make the necessary adjustments, just like they would have done if we went to work.
As more men has now turned to be stay at home dad, they can empathize and are blogging more and more about it and have gone viral. I wonder when will such posts from Indians will appear in the blogosphere.