Few days before read a blog on the net on the eve teasing.
That was literally, an outburst by a girl, of the pain she is experiencing because she was a girl. Most of the incidents written on it, reminded me of few similar incidents happened to myself or my friends..
It reminded me of the old days, where my mom used to explain to me, the small small things, and the precautions we need to take while going out. The everyday fears while going in buses or through lonely paths, the piercing stares which shoots from the unknown eyes, and the restrictions.. This was a very good post by the author which even opened many of my friends’ eyes.
From the beginning, it has always been like, if the child is a girl, its a curse on the family. why? only because they need to marry off the girl with huge dowry, have to live an unsecured life till the time she is with the family, and what not.. Why do the girls always get married and go to the boys house. Why only they should take the pain? The only reason which can be justified is that women can bear more pain, and are more patient etc. Ok, then if they have all those qualities, why are they ill treated? Why are they not given the respect? Why should they live their lives in fears. It is an underlying truth known to many people that men are more dependent on women, while its the vice versa on the front end.
Nowadays, the world has changed so much that, women needs to have a man in the front to live her life. The first half of her life, she is with parents. There she has to live in a organized way, learning all arts, and cooking, and also good in studies(added advantage),taking care of the behaviour, and being alert all the time, and has to be sure that she dresses in such a way, that everyone considers her as a good girl. All these are necessary so that, a bad name doesn’t falls on her. This will inturn is needed so that she gets good proposals, and makes her parents job more easy! And if she stays at home, for beyond a certain age, people will be eagerly creating interesting stories!!
And even for marriage, they are obedient if they agree to an arranged one, or else if they protest, then they are called stubborn or said to have prejudice etc..And after they get married, they have to get adjusted to the new household and lifestyle. Why this partiality!
Are girls not allowed to live in style? Cant they become trendy and look good? Cant they ride bikes? Why cant they hang out at night with their friends? And the most significant joke is all the boys who do hang out and praise and go behind such girls, want a straight forward country type girls as their life partner!! What does that mean now. Strange!!!!
